Nehtdx

You can't.

First, the problem you describe is 100% about the situation in which you're working, and 0% about the person with whom you're working.

So any approach which mentions a specific person (along the lines of "I'm not comfortable working with you in the server room") shifts the focus away from your actual problem, and will cause an implication that you have some fear of specific people. Since that's not the case it will only cause confusion in general, and hurt feelings in the people you mention (who, per your description, have done absolutely nothing to produce your discomfort).

This is a work environment problem, and the person to discuss it with is someone that has authority to grant or limit access to the server room. Your issue seems, to me, to be that if you are working in the server room you need to be alone, and be assured that no one else can enter while you're working there.

That's not something that a coworker, carrying out their own assigned tasks in the room, can address. A manager or supervisor might be able to help you with those, but you'll have to collaborate with them to find a solution that suits your needs.

If that's not possible, or you're not comfortable pursuing it, then it may be impossible for you to work in the server room and feel comfortable. The most direct solution to that would be that your work tasks are changed so that you don't need to do anything in the server room at all.

You are looking at the issue from the wrong side...

Working alone in a soundproof noisy room full of heavy equipment is extremely dangerous: the colleague with you is your safety belt, be grateful he's with you!

Other answers propose surveillance cameras that could help in case of an accident: these cameras would not be manned 24/7 so should a server drop you would be stuck until someone notices you are missing.

Moreover it is common practice not to work alone in dangerous places to increase safety (underwater workers are an example).

In my opinion you could completely avoid the need to talk with your colleague shifting your focus to an actual issue (safety on the workplace: did you see a rack tilt? Scary, if you are on the wrong side!) instead of trying to avoid an hypotetical assault in a server room from a coworker that gave you no reason to fear him.

If you want to bring it up to them directly, I would focus on you don't like being in enclosed spaces. Adding him to your reasoning is not going to do anything productive and will likely backfire and cause HIM to make an HR complaint (as many here would recommend to get ahead of potential issues).

You could also bring it up to your boss/supervisor and simply tell them you get anxious around the person, though be truthful that they have done nothing that may explain why you react this way.

If all you have is your anxiety/gut feeling, I would definitely NOT bring this to HR at this point in time.

We're supposed to keep the door closed when we're in the room to keep
the noise down.

There's nothing you can do when it comes to your co-worker. He's just following protocol. It's the system that's flawed.

It's perfectly normal to feel at unease here, and you should ask the right people to do something about it. You are entitled to a safe work environment (we all are, heck, people use helmets, gloves and steel-boots for a reason). Besides, it makes sense for the company to make sure they don't get themselves into a sticky situation.

You should take this issue up with management and ask them to proceed to get better protocols up and running. That may include a change in the open door policy or having proper security systems installed.

If the company is not willing to change their protocols then you either have to decide if you really want to work in that work environment or not.

As a last resorts you could talk to the co-worker one on one to help him understand your concerns, while making sure it has nothing to do with him as a person. This is a slippery slope, however, and I'd only use this as a last resort if it means the difference of you staying or leaving. Even then, you'd still be breaking the company policy.

Leaving the door open is most definitely NOT the solution. That is a blatant security risk, and if anyone with responsibility for security found the room in that state, IMO you would deserve instant dismissal if that was the outcome of the disciplinary procedure that followed!

My own employers have a scheme where anyone who has concerns about their personal safety can request a personal wearable alarm, which is monitored 24/7. People don't need to give any specific reasons for requesting them. The mere fact that you are likely to be working, or moving around inside or outside the building, in situations where there are unlikely to be other people observing you is enough reason.

A good solution would be to propose something like that as a global solution to the potential problem. Such devices and the services to monitor them are not expensive - they are basically the same technology used in social and medical care, to monitor the wellbeing of high-risk individuals living at home.

Your personal concerns may or may not be well founded, but it's impossible to make a judgement about that from reading only one side of the story here. On the other hand, employees working in isolated situations do suffer sudden illnesses, trip over things and break bones, give themselves electric shocks, etc, etc - and in most countries, the company has a legal duty of care to protect them against the consequences of such risks.

I've tried making up an excuse that it's too warm with the door
closed, I've tried saying that I'm just more comfortable with the door
open, but he keeps closing it.

This line alones tell me all I need to know about your qualifications to work in a server room.

First of all, keeping the door close will keep the cool air in and makes the room cooler. Which is what you want in a server room, not letting it leak out. So not only so you have your facts wrong, you completely misunderstand the purpose of air tight sealing a server room.

Secondly, a server room is meant to be a a one of the most secured places in a company. The company's livelihood rests in this place. There's a reason it should always be locked and secured.

And lastly, the secure soundproof nature of the room is PRECISELY the reason you need a second person in the room with you so you have a helping hand in case something falls on you, trapping you in the cold room to slowly die.

I suggest that you not only look another place of employment, but another line of work where you're surrounded by people in an open area.

You can bring this up to your colleague but you need to understand that:

• the colleague may feel offended by your implication that they would attack you.


• there is nothing stopping anyone in the room with you from closing the door after you have propped it open and subsequently attacking you.

Ultimately, you should reach out to management and explain your concerns working under these conditions and see if they can somehow accommodate you.

I don't know how much time we are talking about. Maybe you need to explain to your manager that you feel uneasy to be in that room with a man, not call out your particular colleague. And ask for permission to keep door open while together with a man inside.

You can also tell the same to your colleague - that you feel uneasy with a man in an enclosed and soundproof place.

Also you could seek professional help to figure out why you feel uneasy with a known and well behaved man in your work environment. Being capable and confident in a common scenario like this can be useful in other areas of your life.